A Cheer to the New Year!

I can’t believe how quickly time flies! They always say that once you get to be an adult, time goes by faster each year, and now I believe it. Although, I’m not old! Just older. And the forties are the new twenties anyway! However, I did take the opportunity to have my mid-life crisis, or really more like an awakening. For those of you who haven’t been following my blog, my husband and I bought an RV this year and we’re in full planning for a U.S. tour beginning spring of 2019.

After spending most of my life playing by the rules (or at least trying to) and pursuing a good education, jobs/career, more education, but still longing for something undefined, I’ve decided to throw (some) caution to the wind. Thus the RV and the plans of seeing the U.S., together with husband, two dogs, and a cat.

As the departure day draws near, and the year is ending, I am picking up the pace on things that need to be done before we leave. If you’ve ever lived in a house more than ten years, you know just how much STUFF one could accumulate…. The house purge process has been both intimidating and majorly cathartic. Once things started moving out of the house and to good causes, I’ve started to feel relieved. There seems to be more space to think.

One of my New Year’s resolutions (be it that it happened this Spring) was to not be attached to material things. Not long after I made the resolution, as a test, I believe, my engagement ring went missing. I tried to live up to my resolution but I really should have made some fine print specifications about said resolution…. But, in the end, a ring is just a ring, right?

Thinking about things of value, I proceeded to scan old photos and take photos of things I might want to remember. Cloud storage is next on the “to do” list. We are aiming to pair down our belongings to the few essential things that we could put in storage for a year, while we travel.

The RV renovations began a while ago and they are progressing in baby steps. My husband pulled out the nasty (once) beige carpet and every single staple holding it together, not a small feat. He repaired the flooring where it needed it, and did the same with an upper cabinet that had been water damaged. I took advantage of the warm spring-like weather around Christmas time and painted a few more of the cabinets. I’m really champing at the bit to see the new flooring go in….

Although we want to be somewhat spontaneous in our travel, I’m a planner, so I started laying out points of interest and pet-friendly sites for each of the states we’ll see. It’s a bit overwhelming but once the plans are a bit more clear, I start feeling a bit more at ease.

This year’s notable happenings included: me quitting my job; my husband retiring; us buying an RV; our 10-year wedding anniversary and week-long RV trip to Miramar Beach, Florida; a trip to North Carolina with old and new friends; a birthday celebration and RV trip to the Great Smoky Mountains; a great trip to see family in Romania and introduce my country to my friends, followed by a colorful immersion into Portugal.

Year in review 2018 photo collage

So, the lessons I’ve learned this year (and I’m still learning):

  1. Be patient
    • Things may take longer than expected to come to fruition.
    • I need to be patient with myself, too.
  2. Trust the inner voice
    • Next time that nagging little voice says “this doesn’t feel right,” I’ll try to listen to it earlier, rather than getting stuck in a damaging situation, trying in vain to change some things that are not changeable.
    • I give people the benefit of the doubt, and get burned/disappointed when many don’t live up to my expectations. When the instinctual vibe fails to send a clear signal, I need to observe more, before trusting.
  3. Keep growing
    • Stagnation is death. Learning new things, career-related or otherwise, is a great way to stay sharp, and have more fun.
    • Accept that we are all ignorant in some respect, and seek to understand more.
  4. Focus on what’s important
    • Stuff is just stuff. The stuff that matters is relationships. However, not all relationships matter. I know this seems like a catch 22, but the point is that
      I need to focus my energy on the people who matter.
  5. Do what you love
    • This sounds like a self-indulgent cliché , but it is a necessity. I’m not saying be irresponsible in pursuing your passion(s), but I can attest to the soul-sucking consequences of not doing what I love enough (for too long). It doesn’t need to be a major production, but you must allow yourself to do something that satisfies your soul on a constant basis. Being unhappy makes for highly unproductive humans.

2018 has been a mixed bag. I had to make some hard choices, including quitting my job, leading to an amazing sense of relief, sanity, and happiness. Once I allowed myself to pursue what I loved and wanted to work on (aka, writing), I found new energy to get things done. I took great delight in catching up with old college friends in the process of writing a book about my alma mater. I completed an online certificate in my work field of marketing – I love learning new things. My health has been augmented by lack of stress, outdoor walks with dogs, more dancing, and having the time to cook. I’ve had time to catch up on reading for fun. It’s been the year of taking back my life, and I’m incredibly grateful for it!

2019 is promising a beautiful adventure and I’m really looking forward to it. Even if it’s a bit daunting at times, I know in my heart of hearts that the status quo is a no go. I hope you’ll follow my blog as I document our next adventure, and please keep a good thought for us as we step into the next chapter of our lives.

Looking forward to 2019

For the new year, I wish you health and joy, peace and kindness! I hope you take the time to do what you love, and to be with the people whom you love and who make you happy.

Happy New Year and Happy Trails!

Romanian Christmas Traditions

If I were in my childhood’s Romania, winter and the holidays would be the best time of the year. I remember the anticipation of the first snow and how as soon as we saw the white flakes start falling, our attention would shift from the classroom to the window. Our teachers’ best choice was to let us go outside and enjoy it. The snow would start falling sometime in late fall and keep piling up through the winter, blanketing everything in fluffy and sparkly white coat.

(I don’t own the copyright to the following three photos but they are too nice not to include.)

As kids, there was no better thing than playing outside and the snow provided many good options from sledding, to building entire living spaces out of snow, to skating at the rink or even on the sidewalks, and to snow fights. I remember going Christmas caroling with my classmates, visiting some of our teachers and receiving oranges, walnuts, and homemade traditional cake. I remember friends coming over to our apartment to carol around our modest but festive tree. I was lucky to live in Brasov, a mountainous town only minutes away from Poiana Brasov, a ski resort and a paradise for all winter sports enthusiasts. I remember my parents getting our sled out, a beautiful blonde wood and red metal number I called Steluta (little star). We hopped on and the parents pulled the sled, walking through the beautiful snow to go visit friends or just to get some air.

(The next three photos are from Poiana Brasov/Romania Facebook Page. Check it out for some great videos, too.)

Even if the Christmas tree didn’t arrive and get decorated until Christmas Eve (the earliest we managed to convince our parents to do it was on the 21st of December), the celebrations started early. On December 5th, we excitedly placed our clean shoes by the door, hoping that Saint Nicholas would leave some goodies in them come the following morning. We didn’t have a ton of toys available, and there were hardly any sweets, unless homemade, but somehow the parents always managed to get us something – I mean, Santa. I remember always questioning how Santa got into our apartment, since there was no chimney available and we kept the doors locked at night…. I resolved that he used magic to shrink himself, then slide through the keyhole, turn back to normal size, leave the gifts, and move on.

Closer to the holidays, my mom got busy in the kitchen, as winter was the time to have a pig cut and (almost) every single part of it prepared into different types of sausages, piftie (meat in gelatin with garlic), toba (our version of head cheese, a gelatinous amalgamation of organs – yum), and various meat cuts for later stews or for making soup. No Romanian Christmas is complete without two things: sarmale – stuffed cabbage rolls and cozonac – traditional cake/roll with walnut filling (or sometimes with other fillings like Turkish delight or raisins).

Romania is very rich in cultural traditions. Each region of the country has its own flavor of these traditions, from clothing, to songs, to food – and all good. One of the traditional Christmas Eve carols is the Star, which entails carrying a star manufactured from colorful paper, adorned with tinsel and bells. A popular New Year’s Eve carol is the carol of the Goat – Capra. Someone dresses up as a woolly goat with pompoms and bells or carries a wooden one that would clap its jaw to the music. Ursul (the Bear) and Plugusorul (the Plow) are two other well-known carols around the holidays. The carols announce the birth of Jesus, and also bestow blessings and good wishes of prosperity upon the listeners.

Today, visitors and locals alike can enjoy the beautiful traditions in the countryside as well as in the city. It is nice to see a renaissance of these ancient traditions in today’s cynical modern world. A few years ago, I had the pleasure of reuniting with my family in Romania for the holidays. We spent some time in Maramures, the picturesque northwestern area of the country were local traditions are alive and well. We also attended a comprehensive folk festival, and witnessed traditions from all around the country. It was such a delight!

Read more about Maramures and some of its attractions, like The Merry Cemetery at Sapanta, Traditions Festival in Sighetul Marmatiei, Ieud Monasteries, the famous wood carvings of Mos Pupaza, and Ples Folk Museum.

I’ve lived in the U.S. for 22 years now, and I am still not used to the lack of time off around the holidays to enjoy with family…. In Romania, everything shuts down for a few extra days because Christmas really is celebrated over three days, plus Christmas Eve, and, then we have to celebrate the New Year appropriately. So, we party through the night, take a nap, then do it all over again the second day, since there is still much food and alcohol to finish up. Although I have new family and friends here now, there is no place like home for the holidays, and I will always miss the long holiday celebrations, Romanian-style.

For all Romanians close or far, Craciun Fericit si La Multi Ani! And for all my readers, Merry Chrismahanukwanzakah and a happy, peaceful, and sane New Year! May you be surrounded by your loved ones and enjoy your holidays!

Castles and Seafood: Sintra and Cascais, Portugal

Sintra and Cascais are two places close by Lisbon that everyone visiting Portugal should see! We were enchanted by the beauty of the castles we visited and refreshed by the crisp air in Sintra-Cascais Natural Park, perched high above the Atlantic Ocean. Continue reading “Castles and Seafood: Sintra and Cascais, Portugal”